SUCCESS LEAVES CLUES
We asked Bunmi for Clues
Something that catalyzed your growth - besides working hard?
The first is my relationship with God. He has pulled me into this work - sometimes kicking and screaming. He has also empowered me to do hard things. Also, I am willing to try hard and new things. Even if I don’t get it right, I’ll learn from it and use it as a stepping stone for my next experience. The third thing is my relationship with certain people. In particular, my coaches, husband, best friend and mentor. They have supported me which in turn has spurned me to grow.
Something you're most proud of?
When I left my 9-5 job because I felt God calling me to start helping women in their relationships, I expected it to be easy. It was God calling me, right? The last thing I expected was the length of time it would take to see results in my business or even with my clients. He asked me to help them wait for their marriages, rather than get married. This was hard because the relationship industry is filled with people promising to help people get married. In spite of the slow pace, the results have been powerful & worth it. I went ahead and wrote a book, Waiting Gracefully, which is all about waiting. I shared relatable knowledge so they don't have to make the same mistakes I did. I wrote it whilst experiencing a challenging pregnancy, Covid-19 lockdowns and financial lack. That is something I will always be proud of.
The world defines resilience as the ability to bounce back, especially from tough situations. This is true and a great ability to have as a person. But please remember that being resilient doesn’t mean we shouldn’t care for ourselves. Even as we train ourselves to be resilient, we should also train ourselves to pause. In the pause, we must ask what we need to keep going and then seek to get it.
Sometimes, what we need is a nap and that’s okay. Other times, what we need is to be understood by our loved ones and that’s okay too. There will always be tough times and we need to build a certain level of toughness to make it through. But we also need softness to care for ourselves at the same time. That is how we will truly be resilient.
Everything in life rises and falls on your relationships. When you thrive in the relationships that matter, with God and yourself, you can give your best to others.
- BUNMI ODUAH
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